The orgasm dictatorship

You know, sex ain´t about maddeningly pursuing an orgasm.
In fact, no one is obliged to reach one. Not you, nor your partner.
Why? Because the whole idea is to have fun, to begin with.
Who in this world can have fun doing something that they love under strong pressure?

Darling, the only thing you should have in mind when you two (or three) are there, is to focus on your senses. Don´t try to please your lover at all cost. Don´t try to do that weird position you read in some magazine that promise you to have the most incredible and long and bigger orgasm of your life with it. Just don´t.
You woul have so much fun discovering what works for you unique two, you know? There is no magic position, no product, no hidden secret, but to be freed from the world outside and just... relish.

You have the treasure map right under your hand, you are the treasure map yourself!
And the voyage that will turn your world upside down start by the trust you put into each other to let go of any pudency, prejudice or fear that stand between you and real freed pleasure.
There is nothing more satisfying than feel the skin chilled out by our touch, the body trembling under our mouth, the sound of true pleasure.

The dictatorship of pleasure is such a insane thing that at first, only man were aloud to have it. Medicine believed that women were not capable of feeling real pleasure with sex. And women who did, and liked it, used to be taken as mundane and sluts by their very own lovers.
Well, things turned around 180° and now we are supposed to find a way to have an orgasm, and quick, or the lover would get frustrated, and the woman in question would question herself as a good lover. The result are couples very, very frustrated. She is pretending to have orgasms because honestly, he has no clue on what tha hell he is doing. And as she is not freed in this disturbed relation to show what actually feels good and what not, well, he really don´t have a clue at all.
Man are taking viagra because they believe we want hours and hours of a hard dick fucking wildly. We are using lubricants to disguise our lack of wetness because it don´t really excite us that way.
Oh, and there are the female version of viagra, that are practicaly a rape to the woman´s body.

Of course the example goes to the average couple, still learning. Still discovering.
Mostly all of us know the thrill, right? Who never?
In time, we´ll eventualy know better. She should.

Particularly, except in the case where the woman suffers from some physical condition that prevent her to get wet and lubrificated by herself, I´m against the use of lubricants for regular sex. Anal is a whole other thing, of course. But please, let the vagina free to really feel.
A woman who is relaxed, enjoying the touches of her lover will, inevitably, get wet, very wet. With a gourgeous yony opening like a flower for you to dive in with your beautiful bonner. Because having this woman under your spell in a way that she is dripping of pleasure and can´t wait to have you inside of her is the best viagra that exist.
But to get there, you need to forget all that shit about perfect body, right way to touch a partner, how much time it must last, how and where the preliminaries have to go, etc.
Really, fuck that shit. Let go of those "macho talk" advises, they are virtualy worthless. Let go of that shaped body of the magazine and go with your own gorgeous one. Don´t worry about making mistakes, nor to be better than his/her last lover. Just laugh, and moan, and kiss, and taste, and make experiences, and talk, and be bold to try something different, and be bold to say it dont work very well with you, and change the position if you´re unconfortable. And ask for a pause to go pee. And make noises, and dear... surrender.
Don´t worry about getting "there", don´t turn this wonderful journey of discoveries and adventures into a stupid race to come as quick as possible.

Let go of the pressure, of the obligation, of the status quo.
Any woman would exchange a fuck where the guy keeps insisting to ask if she came every 20 seconds to a woooonderfull tongue taking a walk between her legs with no rush.
Any man would give up having to come when she asks for it to just enjoy the scene of her beautiful body riding on the top of him.

And please, avoid the stupid question after "did you came?".
Go for making her/him feel so many different kinds of pleasure that your lover will actually discover a new way to come with you once in a while, and can´t wait for more. Got it?

Oh, and now I would ask you to imagine all that I´ve just described in a one night stand.
Can you imagine how it would go? Because that´s the way sex is supposed to be: FREE & FUN.