The golden ticket for female pleasure and why porn is ruining sex for everyone, enhanced

 Total surrender into pleasure.

All women are capable of that, all women are multiorgasmic, and all heterosexual women are looking for a "real man". A real man as in the one who actually learns from making love to his lover, who actually absorbs her within, accepts her timing, and welcomes her whole being, completely freed.

If I had to give anyone a golden ticket, a little recipe to be a better lover, this would be it. There are two very crucial things that every sex practitioner should know:

1) You never try to get inside a woman who is not properly and naturally lubricated with her own fluids

Don't use your spit or some artificial lubricant to do it quicker, it's just rude, even if she dont say anything. Why rude? Because you are simply not respecting the timing of your lover. And not only that, you are not effectively looking at her and seeing her real needs. Lubrificants are made for anal, or women who have a health condition that prevent them from getting naturally wet. When a woman is not wet, she is just not ready.

If you ignore that and engage in penetration, she will have little, or no pleasure, and wont feel comfortable to ask you to stop. Because most women simply don't know that they are allowed to ask that. Or just because if you didn't listen to her signs before, she believes you won't listen to her now. If she is not getting there, don't do it, dear. Wait until you find what really gets her on, and fully aroused, anxious to welcome you in.

"I really like it when a woman spits on my cock and gives it a good stroke"

Well, that is a different matter. That is fetish, not a "natural blooming". You see, a Yoni is like a flower blooming in the morning, and you are her sun. You are that heat that makes her open herself to welcome you within her sweetness. And some women dont even know this, don't know their own bodies. For some reason, don't even respect their own timing. The direct connection between brain and vagina is a real thing, you see, if she is not aroused, that connection doesn't exist yet. Both of you are supposed to build it together.  And some women will make it happen anyway, because she feels she "must" do it. Please, don't let her. Gently stop her, break that pattern and give her something she never had: real pleasure

You can have a half erection and still by the end, come with an orgasm. In her case, she might feel less pleasure during the whole thing. Sometimes no pleasure at all. And don't even get close to an orgasm, having to pretend to have one so you finally stop masturbating yourself using her body. And this is preposterous. Sex is a marvalous thing, shouldnt be done like that.

With no care and no real intention and awareness. Never.

Another thing most people ignore, is that for a woman to have a real and powerful orgasm, she needs to be prepared to host it in her body; Because that energy is a connection with a higher vibration and she is the key, so you both get to reach it. Hence the importance of awareness.

2) Let´s get her ready

Be aware that a woman is not all made of her pussy, yoni, or whatever name you want to give her flower. Also, more than boobs and pussy. The human body has a huge amount of erogenous areas that deserve our attention. Play with her, be creative, give her goosebumps, kiss, bite, lick, caress all those curves in front of you before going for her honey. Anticipation is an amazing card most men ignore. If you play it right, by the time you finally reach her yoni she will be dripping wet and welcoming you.

Since the idea of this exercise is to explore new frontiers, let's do it without no rush, and put the need of extracting an orgasm as soon as possible out of the table.

We want more than a simple rushed orgasm, we want her completely surrendered. Absolute pleasure coming out of all of her pores. A woman's scent and taste actually change according to the amount of pleasure she is feeling.

If you only get inside of her with any part of your body (tongue, fingers or penis, for the most common examples) respecting that first step, you'll notice that it is a stronger flow, and continuous. She wont get a bit wet then dry, and the taste is different too.

So, in order to prepare her, we will find her cervix and massage around it. Gently forming something like a ring around it and “behind” it. To do that, you need to change positions intentionally, so she gets massaged all around that circle, reaching every part of her flower massaging the walls around the cervix. You know when to move for the next part of the circle when she starts to get tender and you feel a flow of wetness and pleasure coming. So you can ask her to lay on her side, or gently move her body as you massage her in order to reach her entirely. As you do, you´ll feel the muscle rings that form the wall of her vagina respond to your touch.

You´ll move on to another part, before she gets too tense of arousal, she needs to release herself to you slowly. Get comfortable. Pay attention. Don't insist. Your role here is to welcome her to release herself and to trust you, not to extract some sort of pleasure out of her as trophy of your masculinity like an idiot. Let her know you´ll make her fly and wont let her fall.

Once you had that imaginary ring massaged; and by massaged I mean in and out: 'cause you want her body feeling you. Your hands, and mouth and skin to skin. Your eyes are massaging her, your words. Tell her how you love her body, how beautiful she is, how marvelous she feels under your fingers...

Once that imaginary ring is complete, she will change. You'll see a side of her you didn't know. And she may want to take over, choose/change position, to ride you... Or may want to let you tame her as your will (and continue to surprise her).

Either way, if you paid attention to her breath and sounds, and the way her body moved during your preparation, now you know when she is enjoying it and when she isn't. At least to start with. Not completely because that might take time.

Now, you let her choose the position to fuck her good. Meaning that if she doesn't spontaneously move to the position she wants and starts riding you, you will. And now you´ll try to reach that spot to which she responded more intensively, based on that imaginary circle we just created. That is our guide. Use positions that will allow your cock, lingam, to massage her on that first big "pleasure pinpoint".

Everytime she wants to take over, let her. Give her control. And when she stops moving take control back and fuck her good. Harder and faster if that's where she was going. Follow her lead. Find your balance point, where you are steady and easy going. And go from there to paradise.

But here's the thing, that is just the first part. There is so much more...

You have the two main things now. It's actually difficult that a woman dont have pleasure in these two checkpoints.

If you practice it with a one night stand lover, please be careful not to break her/his heart. Be clear of your words and intentions. ‘Cause a thoughtful lover is easier to fall in love with. And having a woman riding you with real pleasure too. Be gentle, both of you.

Masturbation

It becomes very simple once you know all that above, for when you are using fingers and (please) your mouth too. And on you go... one finger at a time. You can ask her if she wants one more finger, you can just give what her body asks from you. For some women two fingers are great, but others want three, others a whole fist would be closer to her preferences. You will then massage her cervix, go for circles around it, a little at the tip, then you can make spirals, going deeper.

You gotta be patient and give her time. It can take a lot of time for her to come, it may need a clit massage with your mouth or fingers too, and she may not even get there, and that's ok too. She will enjoy it. And for some women it takes a cock moving inside of her to come, while others only come with a clitoris stimulation. Each woman is unique, plus things change over time. She could even get there too quickly, and get shy. In this case, embrace and sooth her.

Needless to say that a woman's clitoris demands the same lubrication for masturbation as a penis, a dry stroke hurts just as bad, just so you know!

 

This is a female clitoris, all that pink part. Some women never even saw that.
So from now on, let's forget all that useless bullshit seen in porn, and be the kind of lover who actually learns something each time we are with our lover, being a one night stand or life partner. That shouldn't make a difference. Things get really interesting between two lovers when they let the world outside out of the bedroom, and only look and feel the lover between their fingers.

Just leave her free to feel what she feel, without any rush to end it, without any obligation to perform lies. Let her embrace your touch and surrender to it, with body and soul. What you want is intimacy, so look her in the eyes and take her in your arms, she wants to be sure she can trust you with her orgasm. Once you give her the ground to, she will be able to release herself in a unique way. Possibly for the first time.

Namastê to the Great Lovers, the God and Goddess bathing in cosmic orgasm